Myths & Facts
If you ignore a stalker he or she will just go away.
Stalkers can be dangerous, and confronting a stalker may put you in danger. 73% of intimate partner stalkers verbally threatened victims with physical violence, and 46% reported being the
victim of physical violence.
Why do victims choose to stay? Why don't they just leave?
Myth vs. Fact
We often put ourselves in the place of the victims and imagine ourselves leaving at the first signs of abuse. Breaking free of abuse is not simply a matter of walking out the door. Leaving is a process, one that is terrifying and a lot of the time life threatening. Studies show about 4,000 victims die each year due to physical abuse. Of the total physical abuse homicides, about 75% of the victims were killed as they attempted to leave the relationship or after the relationship had ended. The most dangerous time for a victim is when they are leaving an abusive relationship.
Types of abuse: Physical, Emotional/Verbal, Sexual, Digital & Stalking
1. Only women can be victims of Domestic Violence
2. Domestic Violence only happens to poor families
3. Battering is caused by alcohol and drug abuse
Verbal abuse creates Emotional pain and mental anguish. It
is characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder.
1. Domestic Violence can happen to anyone, regardless of race, gender, ethnicity and sexual orientation. Both men and women can be victims.
2. Domestic Violence occurs at all levels of society, regardless of their social, economic, racial or cultural backgrounds.
3. Studies have shown that the cause of intimate partner violence isn't due to alcohol or drug abuse. If there is already violence happening in the relationship, the use of alcohol and drugs can increase the aggression through its effects on your cognitive function. Substance abuse itself does not cause violent or abusive behaviors.
Stalkers rarely just stop. Often stalking behaviors escalate and can become violent. Seek assistance to help you deal with a stalking situation or if
you feel afraid.
Keep in mind, even though this power and control wheel is geared towards women being the victims; men can also be victims too. 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
Stalking is a pattern of behavior that makes you feel afraid, nervous, harassed, or in danger. It is when someone repeatedly contacts you, follows you, sends you things, talks to you when you don't want them to, or threatens you.
You cannot be stalked by the person you are dating.
If you personally confront the stalker, he or she will leave you alone.
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You can be stalked by a current or former partner. Most victims know the person is stalking them. A survey of college student stalking victims revealed that 4 out of 5 knew their stalker.
Any type of bullying or harassing behavior that occurs online, through social networking, text messaging, or other technologies. These acts include anything from sending or posting mean or threatening messages about another person to disclosing private information without permission.
Any sort of non-consensual sexual contact. Sexual abuse can happen to men or women of any age. Sexual abuse can include derogatory name calling, refusal to use contraception, deliberately causing unwanted physical pain during sex, deliberately passing on sexual diseases or infections and using objects, toys, or other items without consent and to cause pain or humiliation.
In the state of Michigan, the age of consent is 16 yrs.
Verbal or Emotional Abuse
Stalking behaviors can include: