1. In internet Explorer, click the 'tools button', and then click internet options
  2. Under browsing history, click Delete
  3. Select the types of data and files you want to remove from your PC, and then click Delete.

Planning for Safe Custody Exchanges

  • Avoid exchanging custody at your home or your partner's home
  • Meet in a safe, public place such as a restaurant, a bank/other area with lots of cameras, or even near a police station
  • Bring a friend or relative with you to the exchanges, or have them make the exchange
  • Perhaps plan to have your partner pick the children up from school at the end of the day after you drop them off in the morning - this eliminates the chances of seeing each other
  • Emotional safety plan as well - figure out something to do before the exchange to calm any nerves you're feeling, and something after to focus on yourself or the kids, such as going to a park or doing a fun activity.

If you are in an abusive relationship, a safety plan should include ways that your children can stay safe when violence is happening in your home. It’s key to remember that if the violence is escalating, you should avoid running to the children because your partner may hurt them as well. This information is provided by The National Domestic Violence HOTLINE path to safety.

Planning for Violence in the Home

  • Teach your children when and how to call 911
  • Instruct them to leave the home if possible when things begin to escalate, and where they can go
  • Come up with a code word that you can say when they need to leave the home in case of an emergency - make sure that they know not to tell others what the secret word means
  • In the house: identify a room they can go to when they're afraid and something they can think about when they're scared
  • Instruct them to stay out of the kitchen, bathroom and other areas where there are items that could be used as weapons
  • Teach them that although they want to protect their parent, they should never intervene
  • Help them make a list of people that they are comfortable talking with and expressing themselves to
  • Enroll them in a counseling program. Local service providers often have children's programs

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Safety Planning with Pets

Safety Planning with Children

  1. In the top-right corner of the browser window, click the chrome menu
  2. Click 'History and recent tabs > History'
  3. Click the button 'Clear browsing data'. A dialog will appear
  4. From the drop-down menu, select how much history you want to delete. To clear your entire browsing history, select the 'beginning of time'
  5. Check the boxes for the data you want Chrome to clean, including "browsing history"
  6. Click the button 'Clear browsing data'

Statistics show that up to 65% of domestic violence victims are unable to escape their abusive partners because they are concerned about what will happen to their pets when they leave. If you’re creating a safety plan of your own to leave an abusive relationship, safety planning for your pets is important as well. Bring extra provisions for them, copies of their medical records and important phone numbers.

If possible, don’t leave pets alone with an abusive partner. If you are planning to leave, talk to friends, family or your veterinarian about temporary care for your pet. If that is not an option, search by state or zip code for services that assist domestic violence survivors with safekeeping for their pets. Try zip code first, and if there are no results, try a search by state. If none of the results are feasible for your situation, try contacting your local domestic violence shelter. For help finding an animal shelter, visit the Humane Society website.

If you have to leave your pet behind with your abusive partner, try to ask for assistance from law enforcement officials or animal control to see if they can intervene.Take steps to prove ownership of your pet, have them vaccinated and license them with your town, ensuring that these registrations are made in your name (change them if they aren’t). If you’re thinking about getting a protective order, know that some states will let you includes your pets. If you’ve left your partner, ensure the safety of your pet by changing veterinarians and avoid leaving pets outside alone.

Let your child know that what’s happening is not their fault and that they didn’t cause it. Let them know how much you love them and that you support them no matter what. Tell them that you want to protect them and that you want everyone to be safe, so you have to come up with a plan to use in case of emergencies. It’s important to remember that when you’re safety planning with a child, they might tell this information to the abusive partner, which could make the situation more dangerous (ex. “Mom said to do this if you get angry”). When talking about these plans with your child, use phrases such as “We’re practicing what to do in an emergency,” instead of “We’re planning what you can do when dad/mom becomes violent.”

Exercise your legal rights. Anyone who is experiencing domestic violence has the right to go to court and petition for an order of protection if they have been battered in one of the fifty states, Puerto Rico, or the District of Columbia. In most parts of the country you can also ask for custody of your children and child support at the same time. You should try to get a lawyer to represent you and protect all of your rights under law. Call your state and local coalition against domestic violence, a state or local crisis hot line, or the state or local bar association to learn more about where to find legal help.

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Planning for Unsupervised Visits
If you have separated from an abusive partner and are concerned for your childrens' safety when they visit your ex, developing a safety plan for while they are visiting can be beneficial

  • Brainstorm with your children (if they are old enough) to come up with ways that they can stay safe using the same model as you would for your own home. Have them identify where they can get to a phone, how they can leave the house, and who they can go to.
  • If it's safe to do, send a cell phone with the children to be used in emergency situations - this can be used to call 911, a neighbor or you if they need aid.
  • Open a savings account in your own name to establish or increase your financial independence
  • Pick a place you can go to stay if you needed to
  • Leave some money, extra keys, copies of important papers, and extra clothes with someone you trust
  • Keep the shelter phone number close: 906-789-1166 or 1-800-682-1649
  • Practice how to get out of your home. Figure out which doors, windows, elevators, or stairs work best
  • Have a bag packed and ready. Keep it in a safe but accessible place, so you can leave quickly if you need to
  • If you have neighbors you can trust, pick one to tell about the abuse. Ask them if they can call the police if they hear a disturbance from your home
  • Pick a code word to use with your children, family, friends, and neighbors to let them know you need the police
  • Use your judgment: if a situation is very dangerous, consider giving the abuser what he wants to keep yourself safe. You have the right to protect yourself.
  • If you have called the Tri-County Safe Harbor, follow it with another call somewhere else and delete our number out of your call list